I've fallen for great girl who's a very good friend of mine. I finally let her know how I felt...?

But she's still with a guy long distance and don't think he can make her happy. She has been very frustrated with him at times because he doesn't fully support her with everything. She's still attached to him and I'm grateful she's honest with me about it. Should I give up on her, back off or should I turn her house into a rose garden? I really want to be with her because I feel she is the one I've waited my whole life for. Please give me some advice on what to do...

I've fallen for great girl who's a very good friend of mine. I finally let her know how I felt...?
Be there when she realizes that the long-distance relationship isn't working.



Don't give up on her if you feel you really want to be with her.
Reply:back down and just be her friend, some guy friend butted into my relationship and i think that my ex fiance cheated on me while i was in basic training, it was her friend
Reply:You remain good friends with her, and support her through this. Be a friend she can count on. You do not want to ruin the chance to make it work into something more, and you also don't want to take a chance on losing the friendship.



I married my best friend. That was almost 29 years ago. I did not see us as anything more than friends, but I slowly realized what a great guy he was, and fell in love. He is still my best friend. Hang in there. It just might happen.
Reply:I've been there my self. and what I did was try to talk to her, and tell here how bad this guy was (because of real reasons. he was not making her happy) but it dose not work. she knows how you fell. some grand jester will most likely just push her away.(like a rose garden) I would say just ask her to think about it, and tell her to be real about this guy and you. think about what she wants. (if you truly care about her, that is what you want) tell her to be honest with her self. and give her time, maybe spend a week or more not talking and let her sort things out. if she still wants to be with this guy, then do everything you can to make it easy on her and not awkward. wait and see. .. if you think she is that great, then it will be worth the wait.
Reply:dont give up- go for what you feel is right.
Reply:I would just be there to comfort her and things. Don't make her scared or pressured. Just wait patiently, but don't give up!
Reply:If you think that you can be a good friend to her - even if she chooses another - then stay. Otherwise, look elsewhere, as you have told her how you feel, and it still has not made a difference.
Reply:if you really feel like that then you should let her know how you feel and not let her just slip through you're fingers. screw the long distance guy he wont know lol
Reply:Tell her you would like to take her to dinner to discuss something on your mind that you feel will benefit the both of you. Let her know how you watch other guys hurt her and that it hurts you when this happen to her, sometimes best friends are made for each other
Reply:she obviously not interrested in you, if she still wants the long distance guy over you. even thought he doesnt supports her.
Reply:if shes with a bf and you think she is happy in the realtionship, dont but in because if you do the friendship might become alkward.



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Reply:just continue to be a good friend and expecially comoft her if shes ever angry or worried about her boyfriend. be a little sweeter then you usual are with her ut dont over do it and overwhelm her with flirting. she'll come to her sences in time. expecially if your patient about it. girls like that quality.
Reply:ask her out on a date
Reply:The best thing you can do is just to be with her . ?
Reply:Trust me you need to go for her. she is in denial that nothing is wrong with the distance guy but will soon learn that your the one for her. Crap i want some one like you! LOL
Reply:If she's still dating someone then back off. If things aren't going great between them, then most likely they will break up. Just don't push her.
Reply:i think you should continue to support her, give her her space and don't pressure her. i've been in the same situation, this guy likes me, but i have a boyfriend as well. give her her space and let her decide, sooner or later (if the guy isn't right for her) she will open her eyes and decide who she wants to be with. relationships like that usually tend to not last because sooner or later she is going to realize that you are the right one for her. have you asked her how she feels about you? you might want to do so. you need to know whether or not she feels comfortable talking to you or not. if she doesn't, give her her space and let her work things out with her boyfriend, if she does, continue to support her and be there for her as a friend. whatever you do, do not pressure her, this will make her uncomfortable and she will avoid you. as for moving on...... i can't exactly tell you what to do. time will only be able to tell whether or not you should move on. after a certain period of time, you will know what's best for you as well as what she feels for you. so give it some time, and good luck =)
Reply:you know, just follow your heart.

when you follow your heart you'll never have regrets



just wait for her and be there for her.



hope all goes well!! sorry i can't help too much :( but thought i'd give my imput at what i would do personally



take care!

-hollyy
Reply:just wait.. if things are bad with the other guy then no girl in her right mind would want to stay around and put up with it, even if she loved the guy.
Reply:Im going to go with everyone else and say you should ask her out again...Dont forget this may be your only chance!
Reply:you should lay back for a while.

you can't really mess with a relationship.

but then again,

long distances don't work out for so long.



you should just chill back for a while.

but if you continue to make her happy

she might fall for you as well.
Reply:If she's the one you've been waiting your whole life for then its worth the effort to give it one more chance.



Stay friends with her, and from the sounds of it, she will most likely eventually break up with her boyfriend. At this point, she will be VERY emotional and you will want to be there to comfort her and provide the shoulder to cry on.



Don't jump on it right afterwards, and give it a little time. Hell, if you do a good enough job, perhaps she'll tell you that you're such a nice guy and will want to get with you right then and there. Just make sure she gets through everything okay.



However, if things don't work out like you plan, because you love her so much, you might have to let her go. It's unfortunate, but it does happen.



Best of luck to you, man. ^_^
Reply:i think u shuld wait 4 her.....shes just confused
Reply:Same Problem as you So if you Get a Good Answer Let me Know
Reply:Wait for her. Don't push her if she still has feelings for the guy she is dating. Be her best friend and give her a reason to fall for you. If it is ment to be than in the end she will be yours but it needs to be in her time not yours
Reply:For whatever reason, she is not ready to leave her boyfriend. You told her how you feel about her, let her digest that. Be there for her through the "difficult times" with her boyfriend, and remind her that you would never treat her badly. IF her Birthday comes up ... send the roses. Good Luck! "What's Meant To Be, Will Be"
Reply:If you have been friends for a long time, you know a lot about her and she knows about you. However, if there was any spark to happen, it would have happened a long time ago.



The idea sounds good, but love and relationships never work logically. Part of the attraction quality is the mystery part of a person, the idea of not knowing a person and not seeing them every day while being intimate is what makes people want to be with each other and learn from each other.



Expressing your feelings towards your friend may actually push her away if it hasnt happened already.

If you are feeling that she hasnt been available as much as before since you expressed yourself to her, then now you know....you need to back off if this happens and let her have some space, because she isnt one to admit wantring los the friendship by rejecting your feelings.
Reply:This happened to me too, I just let her realise that her current boyfriend wasn't all that great, and then we got together.
Reply:can you make her happy like you say?

marry my little sister please xD



but seriously..yes you should if you can do it without hurting her
Reply:If you think that she's worth it,

then have patience and wait for her to get everything straightened out



you wouldn't want to stress her out more because she's already confused and might not be able to give you a straightforward answer
Reply:Hi, I can see how this is hard for you. I think the best thing to do at the moment is to make sure you are the person there when she is venting her frustration about him, the shoulder to cry on, so to speak. In fact, you haven't said how she responded to you letting her know? If she was positive about it then sticking around and being there until is the best option. If not then maybe backing off is the best way of making sure you don't get hurt.

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